Knowing how we perceive the present moment, how we can use it to achieve the outcomes we want and knowing what can hold us back are three keys to living the best life.
How you feel about your life is whet determines whether or not you’re happy.
What stops you from fully connecting with all of your big goals and executing them? A divided focus and a distracted mindset make for double the trouble! Read along to see how you can prevent stasis from happening to YOU!
Sometimes when you look at your life, you see what you EXPECT to see, instead of what actually is. There’s a filter in place, and to the extent that your life conforms to your expectations (or at least SEEMS to), it’s not something you give a lot of thought.
Creatures have all kinds of reactions to discourage perceived threats. Vocalizations, scent or ink production, posturing and physical changes in color or size are all ways that they communicate “I’m able to defend myself… stay away!”.
Let’s take a look at what life can look like when we don’t reach our destination; when we don’t reach our full potential, in very real ways, parts of who we are decompensate.
Speaking with a counselor acquaintance of mine recently, it seems that my impression of the compounding of existing impacts of Covid-19 isn’t far off of the mark. The world has gone gray and the landscape of the space where we expend most of our energy looks less like a series of wind sprints and moreContinue reading “Blue to Gray”
The world that we live in is divided up into spheres of experience, impact, influence and perspective. Collectively, these embodied narratives play out in billions of moments that make up our lifetimes. We often narrate the lives of others as well, supposing that we understand what it means to actually be that other person. Then,Continue reading “Bubbles of Being: Perspectives, Prejudice and Possibilities”
Last Sunday, I was driving along i-45 in Houston and saw a police car in my rearview mirror. I had a slight startle because the new tags for my car had arrived, but I hadn’t yet attached them to the car because I was missing the bottom two screws on the front plate. That startleContinue reading “Shadow”
Have you ever gotten yourself into a position where you are simply at the end of a conversation or conflict and the exchange just isn’t going anywhere? Maybe all sides have made their points with relative clarity and logic, But you simply haven’t been able to come to some sort of a workable agreement aboutContinue reading “Flip the Script!”
I found myself getting stressed out and verging on the hairy edge of grouchy just a few minutes ago. The frame for the context felt SO familiar. I’d gone down a long list of steps and tasks and provided support through some personal and client difficulties and I’d been taxed in my roles to theContinue reading “A Positive Negative”
Have you ever found yourself embodying some character traits that simply don’t align with your personal values? Maybe stress has been high and money and time have been in short supply. Or maybe the technological and systems based frustrations of living with COVID-19 and its impacts have complicated some of the task that you doContinue reading “The Power of Persona”
I consider that we wear our bodies and daily activities in the same way that we wear clothing: there are distinct elements of fashion, practicality, purpose, and utility in the way that we wear both. Some people devote a great deal of time and energy to their grooming regimen and we’ve all made little jokesContinue reading “Wearing It Well”
Sometimes it’s good to take a break from doing things the same old way. I have a tendency to start my morning off with a cup of coffee and a few quiet minutes. I have always made my bed as soon as I got up and opened all the blinds to let in the morningContinue reading “All the Wealth”
Okay, I’ll admit it. I almost started this blog by mentioning the you know what- the reason that we all have to wear masks, stay six feet apart and stare at all strangers, surfaces and swappable items with suspicion. The reason that dust is bust, clean is keen and paper is the new gold plateContinue reading “When It Hits…”
Practice Makes Perfect- But What Are You Practicing? Practice Makes Perfect- But What Are You Practicing? I remember an accomplished horsewoman brought me up short one day when I told her that “practice makes perfect” and she replied “no, PERFECT practice makes perfect”. What an irritating rejoinder! WHO is perfect? But, she was right. WhichContinue reading “Practice Makes Perfect- And Other Lies”
For many families during Covid-19, the new version of normal means that school and work have both come home. While it might save a little bit on the fuel and the dry cleaning bills, it’s presented an impromptu case study in “How to Function Under Enhanced Stress”. Parents have lost the support of care andContinue reading “Off and On”
The Comfort of Chaos Each of us has places in our lives where we draw back from the demands of change into the comfort of our current circumstances. It’s a case of the old car or the old shoes. We’ve long since grown past the place where the old approach to doing things was beneficialContinue reading “The Comfort of Chaos”
How do you handle the surge of emotion that different situations can bring? Both positive and negative emotions can become powerful forces that make remaining connected more difficult. People have difficulties staying connected to their children when they tantrum, to their partners when they are anxious or jealous and to their jobs when the responsibilitiesContinue reading “Frozen Baggage”
It feels like the meta narrative of our times has become extreme in every sense of the word: the news is noisier and more biased than ever, the economy is schizophrenic in its tendency to favor the dynamic that the wealthy become wealthier and the poor become poorer, the political landscape resembles a vast collectionContinue reading “Don’t Give Up, Don’t Stand Down, Don’t Sit Still”